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I Wish I Knew This Before My Divorce  By  cover art

I Wish I Knew This Before My Divorce

By: Elaine O. Foster, Joseph W. Foster
Narrated by: Steve Carlson
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I wrote this book after 25 years of working with military couples in various stages of divorce. As a psychologist, the pressure was always on to find ways to help patients embrace the suck of separation and make tracks for firm ground.

In the military, you learn to adapt to pain and grow from it. During boot camp, pain teaches you to believe in yourself. Survival training uses pain to teach problem-solving. But how do you thrive when faced with the mother of all pain - an unwanted divorce? Has anyone developed training for that?

We have.

My husband, Joe Foster (best-selling author of In Movement There Is Peace) and I have collected hundreds of therapy cases where one person wanted a divorce and the other didn’t. To make it into this audiobook, the strategies had to prove successful in real people’s lives to create radical change. The result is an indispensable survival guide for people who don’t want to divorce and don’t know what to do about it.

Using true-life stories and daily practices, you’ll discover:

  • Why your relationship slammed into a brick wall and what you can do about it
  • The truth about what your spouse is really running away from (hint: it’s not you)
  • What happened to your husband/wife and who that stranger is that’s posing as them
  • Secrets to radical acceptance that help you stay in control no matter what your spouse throws at you

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2017 Elaine Orabona Foster (P)2018 Elaine Orabona Foster

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A huge help!

This was fantastic for anyone going through a divorce, but especially those of us who are older. I’m gained a lot of insight and learned a lot about moving forward. I am now listening to it for the second time!

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If considering, get it

This book is very helpful and useful. Highly recommend if you find yourself in this boat now.

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DO IT YOU NEED IT

This book is EVERYTHING you need if you have just been left by your spouse. I have listened to it 4 times. It brings me back down to earth when I'm angry or sad. it has helped me not hate my husband and given me hope for myself either way. The reader is also great. his cadence is really good and calming

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Really good!

This book hits all the highs and lows of divorce and provides some great advice for dealing with it all.

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Hard to accept but very enlightening

Ass a marriage and family therapist I found this book very helpful as I am 2/3 of the way into my divorce and it is difficult to see sometimes the things that we teach others. I think 2 of the most important messages that stayed with me the first time I read it was,,,"Property is owned; people are free" and "true love does not need to be chained in place." I was married for 15 years. And because I had been so unhappy for so long I brought up divorce as a way to move things forward and possibly set a wake-up call to what was happening. My husband instead moved out and immediately began dating our daughter's Godmother the day after he moved out and only a month after the word divorce was said. This book has definitely began me on a journey of healing and I have had to listen several times. Each time I gain new knowledge and confidence.

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Should be a mandatory read before marriage.

I recomend this audio/book to all that are having problems in their marriage and especially everyone that is going through a seperation/divorce. Within a matter of days the lessons in this book helped me lift my self blame and hatred I had created toward myself and my future ex-wife/friend.

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A TRULY helpful resource

I can count on two fingers the number of Audible reviews I’ve left. This is a great book with very practical tips. I’m definitely re-reading this several times. My only complaint is that the companion site doesn’t work anymore and I have to try to find the pdf online somewhere. Read this book of you’re thinking about separating, separated, or going through a divorce. You will be a better, more whole person if you put their advice into play.

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life saving

This is the best mindfulness book for those separated and divorced. The book teaches you how to control what you can, and how to find oneself again. I've listened to it over and over.

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The best book I will read in 2023!

If you need advise for marriage, this book will help you get to answers to some of the questions your trying to answer for yourself.

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Very comforting

This has been encouraging in so many ways during the dark night of my soul.

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